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Our Theme Song

We now have an official (official because I said so!) theme song , titled "My Madonna." Here's the chorus. Memorize these words:

She's the leader of her own world order
She's a legend in my own mind
She's the goddess of her own religion
My Madonna, and I can't believe she's mine

Once I get the album I will review it and if I think you would like it I'll put a link up on the site to the album page on Amazon so you can buy it. Oh, finding this song has really made my day! Don't most great social movements have a theme song? Well, now we've got ours!

Are those lyrics perfect or what? Don't they describe exactly how you feel about your goddess. I LOVE this song! I wish I could claim authorship of this little gem but actually it was written by Dexter Freebish (must be a Comet Man!). I have ordered his album and will be contacting him soon to let him know of his incredible good fortune. Perhaps he'll let me put an audio clip of part of the song on the Venus on Top website.

A Red Front Door

Our house
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This photo was taken when we made the offer on the house, so a lot of the doodads you see are the previous owner's stuff. She took most of that stuff with her thank goodness!

But the red door stays!I really love the red door and they say it's good feng shui. Every time I return home it makes me so happy to open that red door and know that this wonderful house is mine.

I love this house and I love living on the river. All the neighbors are laid back and cool. This bohemian lifestyle suits me perfectly.

View of Our House From the River

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This photo was taken shortly after we moved in last year. Now you can't see the house as well from the river because our boat is docked out front there. I'll post a boat photo sometime soon. The big front deck is our outdoor living room in the summer.

You can see my office and deck on the second floor to the left. If you have to work, this ain't a bad way to do it!

Where Does The Goddess Live?

North Portland Harbor
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The river you see is a channel of the Columbia River in Portland, Oregon. This is the view from the parking lot. Our house is on the left with the blue roof and red door.

It's just like a boat moorage here, but we all have houses and boats. You have to walk down a ramp and along the boardwalk to get to the house. We have a wonderful view across the river to Hayden Island.

It's much like Sleepless in Seattle but not as pricey to live in Portland. We love it here.

Searching for Your Goddess

I know that when some of you read that previous post it put a little ache in your heart. Valentine's Day is a happy day when you're in love, but bittersweet if you are still looking for that special woman to love.

I am going to help you by publicizing my book, Venus On Top, and getting it into the hands of as many women as possible. There are plenty of women out there for all you "Comet Men" (that's my name for the kind of man who will follow his Star Woman/Goddess anywhere). The women just need to be educated about what a wonderful life they can have with you guys.

Soon I will be starting to have teleseminars for people who want to know more about this lifestyle. My subscriber list is growing slowly but surely. I can see a time in the future when I might even have some type of private matchmaking or dating service just for Star Women and Comet Men.

One of the most difficult parts of being a single man who wants a woman led marriage is figuring out when and how to tell the woman you're dating that this is what you want. If you try to discuss it too soon or in too much detail you might scare her off. If you wait too long, you might fall in love with a woman who can never accept you 100%.

That's a mistake many of you have already made and you know how painful divorce can be. You know it does you no good to pretend that you're something you are not. You can never be happy that way. You deserve a woman who loves and accepts you as you really are.

So, chin up, boys! Keep the faith and carry on. Stay on my list, keep up with the news and advice on this blog. It may take some months before I have enough people on the list to warrant starting some type of match up service. But I can see that there is a great need for it.

Imagine how great it would be for you if all the women on my private dating site were educated about what you need. Suppose they were screened to make sure they wanted and accepted the Venus On Top lifestyle before they were allowed to sign up. You'd have no more fear of being judged and misunderstood.

Please add your comments to this post and let me know how you feel and if you think this idea of a private dating service would work. Nothing would please me more than to know I was helping other people find the kind of happiness my husband and I enjoy.

Valentine's Gifts Fit for a Goddess

The Sunday paper was blooming with pink and red ads for Valentine's Day presents last week: jewelry, candy, jewelry, clothing, flowers and more jewelry. Mere things, however expensive and well-meaning, do not warm this Goddess's heart.

What did my No. 1 do for Valentine's Day? He used his imagination and some forethought to give me two wonderful gifts far more valuable and personal than any store ad could suggest.

First a mysterious box arrived from the Vermont Country Store. What in the world would he have ordered from this unlikely source? A pair of the cutest, coziest pink micro-fleece slipper-sox you'll ever see with non-slip grippers printed on the soles in a white snowflake pattern!

He noticed I've been uncomfortable because my feet get cold so easily on the tile floors here during the winter. Our house is built on a concrete slab that floats on huge logs above the river. There's no insulation below the floor so of course it's cold! In the summertime the cool tile floors are a blessing, but not in the winter. Now my toes are toasty in my new super foot warmers!

But wait, there's more! He also spent time calling around to nearby auto detailers for the Goddess's trusty old '91 Suburu sedan. The interior had gotten musty and dusty over the years, but I won't give it up because it stills runs great and the all-wheel drive makes it so sure-footed in the rain.

He spent several hundred dollars to have the car completely detailed inside and out. It took them 3 days! They even took the seats completely out, cleaned every bit of the interior, steam-cleaned the engine, and polished up the exterior. Now I can motor to dance class in style! That was a better gift than any piece of jewelry!

Now I don't mean to put down women who love jewelry. I'm just not one of them. The point is that he thought about how he could make me feel more comfortable and cared for. His gifts were chosen with my personal needs in mind. Who cares what the rest of the world does for Valentine's Day!

If your Goddess loves jewelry, then by all means, give her jewelry. But think of some little off-the-wall item you could give her, or a service you could do for her, that would add to her comfort. Is there something that she doesn't have time to do that you could take care of for her? It doesn't have to be expensive. If it comes from your heart, she will be pleased and feel loved.

Happy Valentine's Day!

If Women Are Worshipped

“Boyfriends need to understand that if women are worshipped, the world will be a better place.”

–Nicole Kidman

I'm always distressed when I hear women say that they don't want to be worshipped. It's difficult for me to understand why ANY woman would NOT love to be worshipped and adored by the man she loves.

There are two aspects to being worshipped as a woman. One is personal; the other is universal. Every good man has within him a desire to honor the highest qualities of the Feminine embodied in the best women: compassionate, receptive, nurturing, loving.

When you have genuine respect for women you enjoy making small gestures of respect and service to every female you meet. You open doors, retrieve an item from a shelf she can't reach, and are polite, even gallant in your everyday manner. Doing these things for women who are strangers and may never cross your path again is a wonderful way to express your respect for the Universal Feminine.

Women in our society have been so indoctrinated to being helpers and sacrificing for others that they have great difficulty accepting compliments or admiration. Some women have become fiercely independent in an attempt to avoid being a doormat. They won't accept any simple gesture of helpfulness from a man. They won't even let you open the door for them!

What they don't understand is that they are doing you a real disservice when they won't accept your help or your compliments. They are depriving you of an opportunity to express respect to the Feminine Principle that they represent to you. And sadly, they are lacking respect for the very thing that is at their core as a woman.

Women need to realize that a man's desire to worship his woman is not based on the false premise that she must be perfect, but on the fact that the mystery of creation lives in her body and the mystery of love lives in her soul. You love the less-than-perfect real human being on a personal level but you also love the glorious image of womanhood that she represents to you.

If your lady is an other-oriented Earth Mother who has difficulty accepting the idea of worship, perhaps this concept of the personal on one level and the universal on another could help her be more accepting. She might let you treat her as a Goddess if she sees it as a role she is playing. Most women could play at being a Goddess for at least a little while!

Blessings,

Goddess B.

Elise Sutton Endorses Venus On Top Book

Elise Sutton, author of Female Domination: An Exploration of the Male Desire for Loving Female Authority, has reviewed Venus On Top and recommends it highly. Ms. Sutton is a well-known and respected authority on female domination who has a very popular and informative website: Elise Sutton's Female Superiority Page.

Venus On Top gives the mainstream woman a low-key non-intimidating introduction to the “woman-led” marriage.

Elise received a letter from a man asking if she could direct him to a book that would give his wife an introduction to the female domination lifestyle. See the letter and Elise's response and reasons for recommending the book here.

I'm thrilled that Elise thinks so highly of my book! Her book is excellent also, but I have to agree with the man who wrote the letter that parts of it are a little too intense for the average woman. The concept of what I call the "woman-led marriage" is provocative enough for most people. I do not use the term female domination or FemDom or any of that jargon in the book. It's too shocking for the uninitiated. But it is the desire of more men than anyone would think.

I would appreciate getting a testimonial for the book if you or your partner have read it and it helped you. All it needs to be is a sentence or two that I can use on my website. I really want to know how it has helped you. You can just post it quick and easy right here as a guest. You don't need to sign up or give your e-mail address to make a comment. Just click on the word comment below and type away. Don't be shy!

Don't have the book yet? Go to the home page Venus On Top (which is directed to women) or to my special For Men Only page.